An expert in cultivating kindness shares practical tips with Noggin parents.
Dr. Thomas Lickona wrote the book on raising kind kids: How to Raise Kind Kids. Now he’s sharing some winning strategies that Noggin families can try to power up kindness in their own homes.
“You can coach kindness just like you would coach a sport,” he said. “You have to do it patiently. You have to demonstrate it, and then you give your child a chance to imitate what you’ve just demonstrated. Then you have to practice it, give positive, encouraging feedback, and then gradually back off and watch them do it with less help.”
Here are 11 specific ideas that Dr. Lickona (very kindly!) shared with Noggin:
1. Talk the Talk!
Research shows that when parents tell kids they are “kind” and “generous” people (rather than praising a behavior as kind), kids start to think of themselves as kind people. Dr. Lickona explains, “They take pride in being that sort of person, the kind of person who shares, the sort of person who is generous.” Try saying: “You are such a kind big brother to help your sister find her teddy bear” or “You are a generous person! That’s why you shared your cookie.”
2. Give Kids Real Responsibilities
Consider giving your kids one chore for each year of age to help them learn to take pride in being helpful. Dr. Lickona notes that being helpful is at the core of kindness: “It means being aware of others’ needs, noticing them, helping without being asked.” He said kids are capable of a lot more than parents might realize at home: they can help care for siblings, clear the table, make beds, sweep…
3. Set a Good Example
Be kind to your family members, your friends, and other people you interact with. Ask others how they are, listen, and offer to help. Kids are watching and will learn from your example.
4. Make Sure Your Kids Pay Attention to Your Good Example
Your kids are watching you…but make sure they understand what you’re doing and why. For example, if you donate to a local library, you could tell your child, “I love books because they help us learn and imagine, and I love our local library because it helps all kids find books they’ll love. When I can, I give money to the library to help more kids read great books!”
5. Create a Peace Table at Home
Create a “talk it out space” or “peace table” where family members can go to go to solve problems. When two people arrive at the table, they should take two deep breaths. Each should talk about what he or she wants. Then each person should talk together about what’s fair, and compromise. This will help your kids learn that it’s OK to have conflicts … and then work them out with kindness and respect.
6. Share Real-Life Examples of Kind Kids
Dr. Lickona said sharing stories of kind things other kids have done can inspire your kids to think creatively about how they can help. For example, he shared the story of a 4-year-old neuroblastoma patient, Alex Scott, who raised $2,000 with a lemonade stand in her front yard to help doctors find cures for kids battling cancer. That lemonade stand has turned into a non-profit cancer research organization that has funded nearly 1,000 research projects at 135 institutions.
7. Read/Watch Kindness Focused Stories
It’s important to model kindness for your kids — but it’s also important to expose them to stories and characters (from books, TV, or movies) that show kids the goodness in the world. “When you see all those different examples, you then start to have a conversation: ‘Well, what can we do? What can we do in our neighborhood? What can we do in our community?’”
8. Be a Family on a Mission
Dr. Lickona said creating a family mission statement highlighting kindness helps families create a higher sense of purpose. “It becomes your reference point as a family, something that guides you is everyday family life. You really develop a sense of who you are as a family, a shared sense of purpose, a shared identity: this is who we are as a family, we care about these things.”
9. Clean Up Your Neighborhood
When Dr. Lickona takes his grandkids for walks, he tells them there are three kinds of citizens: the kind who litters, the kind who never litters, and the kind who picks up litter to make the community clean and beautiful for everybody. “That becomes part of their identity,” he said. “You can do this kind of thing at a very early age. And the wonderful thing is that kids will take pleasure in it.”
10. Volunteer Together
Find local causes — from helping at a soup kitchen to cleaning up a local park — that matter to your family and volunteer together. Kids will remember the experience, and it will help them learn how to empathize with others.
11. Support a Cause You Care About
Dr. Lickona recommends designating three family jars for coins: spending, saving, and giving. Your child can help to pick a charity where they can donate the “giving” coins once the jar is full.
Are there any other ways YOUR family likes to teach your kids kindness? Share your tricks on Noggin’s Facebook!
Upcycle with your crafty kid to create Valentine’s Day gifts made from the heart!
Love is in the air this time of year, so celebrate with your preschool sweetheart by turning your recycling into artsy, Earth-friendly gifts!
- Turn an empty milk carton into a “Love Bunny Planter”
- Create a decorative “Heart Stamper” from a toilet paper roll
- Transform jars into “Love Lights”
- Place “Notes from the Heart” in an upcycled container
Love Bunny Planter
Transform an empty half-gallon milk carton into a Love Bunny Planter.
Materials:
- Empty, clean milk carton
- Scissors
- Paint
- Paintbrushes
- Soil
- Seeds or beans (try dry lima beans or anything you think will sprout!)
Instructions:
- This step is for a grown-up: Use a pair of scissors to cut bunny ears and a bunny tail into the front and back of the empty milk carton.
- Paint the milk carton with your child to make it look like a bunny rabbit.
- When it’s dry, ask your little gardener to spoon soil into the bunny and then poke holes and sprinkle in the seeds or beans.
- Place it in the window so it can get sun. Remember to give it just a little water (try not to make any muddy puddles)!
- The Love Bunny Planter also makes a great gift for family members with green thumbs.
Heart Stamper
Don’t lose it, reuse it! Turn an empty toilet paper roll into a heart stamper.
Materials:
- Empty toilet paper roll
- Tape
- Paint
- Paper
Instructions:
- Ask your child to squish a toilet paper roll down so it is flat. Then he or she can push one of the points inward to create a heart shape. While your little one holds the heart in place, you can tape around it. It’s no longer a TP roll: It’s a heart stamper!
- Squeeze some paint onto a paper plate or other surface.
- Ask your child to dip the heart stamper into the paint and then press it down on a piece of paper. Decorate as much or as little as you want.
- When it’s dry, you can cut up the paper to create small cards or create a huge heart poster together!
Love Lights
Light up your little sprite’s heart by crafting jar lights together.
Materials:
- Empty, clean, and dry glass jar (like an empty jelly jar)
- Glue
- Paintbrush
- Tissue paper in at least 2 colors (or you can use cut up napkins!)
- Scissors
- Votive candle (or flame-free battery-operated candles)
Instructions:
- Prep by cutting hearts out of the tissue paper. By about 4 years old, many children can learn how to fold the paper in half and cut out heart shapes. Try it together!
- Your little artist can dip the brush into the glue and paint a thin layer of glue on the outside of the glass jar.
- Stick the hearts onto the glue. You can keep them separate or overlap them. Be creative with the heart designs!
- Once the surface is dry, paint more glue on the outside. Let it harden.
- Use a votive candle (or a battery-operated “flame”) to spruce up your family’s dinner table!
Notes from the Heart
Here’s a craft that never fails, it’ll make kids want to wag their tails! Create this container full of love notes and schedule a “mail time” session for the family, allowing each member to read a special love note.
Materials:
- Empty and clean box (like a hot cocoa container, an empty pasta box, or any other box that you otherwise would have put into the recycling bin)
- Paint
- Glitter, stickers, or other decorations (optional)
- Paintbrush
- Small pieces of paper
- Markers or crayons
Instructions:
- Your little artist can paint the outside of your box in your favorite colors. We picked pink for Valentine’s Day, but any color you love will work!
- Decorate.
- While it’s drying, cut the paper into small pieces and work with your child to draw pictures or create little love notes to put inside the box. Encourage your little one to express himself or herself with drawings, smiley faces, hearts, or little notes. We all know that everything he or she creates — even dots or doodles — is precious!
- On Valentine’s Day, your child can spread cheer by letting friends and family pick a “Note from the Heart” out of the box!
Happy crafting!
Did you know that family plays an important role in helping kids to form their identities and to develop their sense of self? This gives them an understanding of how they fit into the world. Noggin’s family section is designed to spark conversations and inspire ideas that we hope will help to create stronger family bonds.
This month, a section of Noggin’s app is focused on family! Launch the app and look for the “Family” button in the nav. Noggin’s family section is designed to spark conversations and inspire ideas that we hope will help to create stronger family bonds.
Play Along with the Guppies!
This month, learn about family with the Bubble Guppies. When the Guppies learn that Molly is a soon-to-be big sister, they dive into fin-tastic facts about babies.
TIP: While playing along with this “Bubble Baby” interactive video, talk with your child about the characteristics of big kids (themselves) and babies!
Read Dora’s Bedtime Explorers eBook
Dora and her siblings follow a special betime routine. Is Dora’s family like yours at bedtime? After reading the eBook with your little one, with your kids and then discuss the routines your family follows and/or routines they’d like to put in place (like reading an eBook every night).
TIP: If toothbrushing causes trouble in your household, try singing Dora and Boot’s toothbrushing song featured in “Bedtime Explorers.” This little tune can become a part of your bedtime routine!
10 Tips From a Child Development Expert.
Imagine you want to help your preschooler learn important math and reading skills to get ready for school. What’s next?
A. Download a popular alphabet or numbers app
B. Buy some colorful flashcards.
C. Practice the alphabet and counting to 10
D. None of the above
Kathy Hirsh-Pasek, a developmental psychologist, best selling author, and mother/grandmother to her own incredible children, says the right answer is D, none of the above.
“Let’s look at flashcards seriously, or the digital apps that are flashcard-y,” she says. “What they do is they build parrots.”
After you return the flashcards, what should you do?
Dr. Hirsh-Pasek thinks parents and children should play together in fun, simple, low-budget ways that teach math, reading, and more — without encouraging kids to memorize and repeat things like parrots!
Play “is not frivolity,” she says: it’s how children learn. And, while kids can play on their own, play becomes a more powerful learning tool when parents are involved.
“Playing on your own is kind of fun, but it’s not as rich as playing with someone else,” she explains. “Parents are the ones who can best make play work. We create the balance, the energy, and add the layers that not only make play fun, but make play enriching.”
Dr. Hirsh-Pasek suggests 10 ways families can play to build their child’s brain power:
1. Play imagination games: Play make believe and dress up to imagine the world from others’ perspectives. Try “treasure hunts,” hiding things under chairs and cushions for your little one to find. “It helps kids learn to see beyond what’s right in front of their eyes — to imagine what’s coming.”
2. Play with cause and effect: A simple game of hide and seek can turn kids’ minds “on.” “That’s play, but it’s also teaching them that you’re going to reappear,” explains Dr. Hirsh-Pasek. Also try rolling, throwing, and kicking balls together. Where do they go? Why? Build a tower and knock it over. These games help your child learn intro math skills and how the world works.
3. Play with rhythm and rhyming: When you play clapping games or make up silly rhymes, your child is learning the foundations of patterns, which are important in math and reading.
4. Play waiting games: like Musical Chairs and Simon Says. These help kids learn to listen and wait. Impulse control is an important social-emotional skill that helps children thrive in school and life.d reading.
5. Read and tell stories together:“When you are playing with stories, and jumping into the storyline, you’re learning about the importance of a narrative, about character, about having conflict and resolving that conflict,” Dr. Hirsh-Pasek explains. “That’s the foundation for literacy and reading.”
6. Build Together: “When you’re playing with blocks, you’re using words like over, under, around, in, and through — spatial words that will help be the foundation for later mathematical skills and other STEM skills,” Dr. Hirsh-Pasek says.
7. Explore everyday materials: When you draw or paint together, your child is honing his or her observation and sensory skills — and boosting vocabulary. When your child bangs on surfaces, he learns the properties of new materials. Which makes a loud sound: a metal bowl or a squishy pillow?
8. Play outside: Explore your backyard, a local park, or a nearby playground to develop curiosity and problem-solving skills. Dr. Hirsh-Pasek says: “Did you ever notice that when you drop water on the sidewalk on a summer day, the water disappears? What’s that about? What’s it about when we see our shadow on a sunny day? What’s it like when we make snow angels? When we have to build that snowman, we position one piece on top of the other, so it doesn’t fall over. That’s physics!”
9. Make your home into a “playscape”: Leave drawing materials, puzzles, dress-up supplies, or games around your home where your child can find them. Museums and parks can design their spaces to encourage “playful learning,” and so can you.
10. Allow yourself to (re)discover the world with your child: Dr. Hirsh-Pasek says: “If you can throw away the constraints of being an adult for a while and see the world through your child’s eyes, you will discover a whole new world. Why does a door handle open a door? What makes the water come out of a spigot? Where’s that water come from anyway? Is it coming from the ocean? Is it the same water that goes in the bathtub? Why does my ducky float? See the world from their point of view, and you will see there are adventures absolutely everywhere.”
Get Inspired by Family Routines and Traditions Shared by Moms
Does your family do taco Tuesdays, game nights, or special bedtime lullabies?
If so, it sounds like you have family traditions — routines and rituals that help families grow stronger and that help kids develop values and identity! Family traditions contribute to kids’ healthy early development: they are linked with learning language, building social skills, and later success in school.
The beginning of the new year and new decade might be a good time to assess your own family traditions and consider creating new ones that reflect what makes your little team special. We asked 100 moms to share their favorite traditions: you can borrow, adapt, or build your own!
Food Traditions
Lots of preschool family traditions focus on one of our favorite things: food!
Eating Together
“We eat dinner together pretty much every single day. I think it is important for us to spend time together and talk about anything at least once a day. It is fun for us to spend time together.” – Brandy
“We have dinner with my in-laws twice a week. My son likes spending time with his grandparents.” — Kelly
Cooking Together
“We do family cooking time at least once a week with my little ones, it is a great bonding time, as well as them learning great skills.” — Nichole
Special Regular Food Nights:
Taco Tuesday, Pizza Night, Brinner…
“We do Taco Tuesday and just this year we started Brinner. The kids seem to love having pancakes and eggs for dinner.” — Desiree
Family Nights
Lots of families have weekend family “nights” — which can happen at night OR in the afternoon, whatever works for you!
Movie Night
“We usually do family movie night on Saturdays. It’s fun having those traditions that we look forward to, and brings the family together.” — Rachel
Game Night
From Guessing Games to Board Games to Charades
“Game night once a month. No matter what happens, we still have family and we are still close and get to enjoy each other’s time.” — Jessica
“For us, game night and/or movie night is one way that we make quality time together as a family. It’s the time during the week that we set aside everything else in our individual lives — from work, school, or activities with other friends — in order to bond together as a family and focus on us” — Marika
Bedtime Traditions
Parents think of bedtime routines as important family traditions that help their family wind down and reconnect.
Bedtime Stories
“Bedtime stories are a tradition and important because it’s a guaranteed time of the day to sit with each child individually.” — Katie
“I try to always say goodnight to each of them and tell them I love them, too.” — Janeene
Family Adventures and Celebrations
Some families enjoy stepping away from technology and spending time together in nature or in their community.
Walks, Parks, and Picnics
“We like to go for walks, go to the park several times a week, go to the beach at least once a month, have picnics. I think they are important to us because it helps us to disconnect from tech and just check in with one another.” — Kelly
Music and Local Festivals
“We try to do something fun every week. I just think it’s really important to take a break from work and life’s distractions and enjoy living.” — Bridget
Special Birthday Decorations
“For the kids’ birthdays, I blow up a ton of balloons and put them around their chair and on their bedroom door.” — Jennifer
Cook Peppa Pig Fruity Face Pancakes Together!
When Peppa Pig and her family make pancakes together, Mummy Pig pours the ingredients into the bowl, Peppa and George stir up the batter, and Daddy Pig makes a mess as he tries flipping his own pancake. What’s better than watching Mummy Pig, George and Peppa prepare pancakes? Doing it yourself — as a family!
You might be surprised at how much your kids — with a little encouragement — can do in the kitchen. Starting at about 18 months, most kids can start pouring ingredients into bowls, rinsing fruits and vegetables, stirring batter, mashing fruits and vegetables, sprinkling spices, and more. At four, most kids can help you crack eggs, roll dough, cut using kid-safe knives, juice lemons, whisk, and set the table.
The Facts & Benefits of Cooking with Your Kids
Cooking with kids can take longer and can be a little (or a lot) messier than cooking solo, but research shows that cooking together makes families stronger and helps kids develop in important ways:
Nutrition and Health:
They’re more willing to try new foods and healthier foods. Research shows that kids eat more fruits and veggies after learning to prepare them.
Fine Motor Skills:
When kids use their hands to cook — tearing, wrapping, stirring, pouring, spreading, cutting — they’re developing their fine motor skills and muscles.
Early Math Skills:
Working together in the kitchen — counting, weighing, measuring, estimating, timing — can help kids learn early math skills.
Make your own Peppa Pig Fruity Face Panckakes!
Watch Peppa and her family make pancakes in Noggin — and get inspired to make your own batch together with your family. If you’re up for it, try our simple banana pancake recipe that uses ingredients you probably already have in your kitchen to create Peppa Pig Fruity Face Pancakes!
Ingredients
2 ripe bananas
2 teaspoons baking powder (Optional: this will make your pancakes fluffier, but the recipe will work if you don’t have any!)
2 large eggs (If you don’t want to use eggs, use your favorite egg substitute. Many people like “flax eggs.” To make one flax egg, mix 1 tablespoon of flax seed powder and 3 tablespoons of water, and let it sit until the mixture becomes gelatinous.Bonus points if you can teach your little one the word “gelatinous!”
5 tablespoons of your favorite oats or flour (white whole wheat, almond flour, or plain old all purpose — whatever you have in your kitchen).
Oil or butter for greasing the pan
Your favorite fruits: berries, bananas, orange slices, peaches, pomegranate seeds, or whatever you like
Instructions
1. Wash your hands with soap and warm water. Everyone — kids and grown-ups — needs clean hands before starting to cook!
2. Work with your little one to wash your fruits and prepare them to use as decorations. This might mean cutting strawberries or bananas using a kid-safe knife or separating oranges into wedges.
3. Help them mash the bananas in a bowl. Feel free to channel your frustration at being awoken before dawn to mush those bananas until they’re smooth!
4. Work together to measure and mix in the baking powder if you’re using it.
5. Work together to crack and mix in the eggs or egg substitute.
6. Work together to measure and mix in the flour or oats.
7. This part is for a grown-up: Heat a lightly oiled or buttered pan or griddle. Pour or scoop the batter onto the pan or griddle. Brown the pancakes on both sides.
8. When your pancakes are ready, lay out plates, pancakes, and prepared fruits and help kids decorate! Try making the pancakes look like Peppa Pig or other animals. You could create pancake elephants or cats, a pancake monster, or even pancake family portraits. Get creative and be sure to use your imagination when kids present their “Peppa” creations.
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